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Save the Dates - Tips and Tricks!

There are so many things to think about when it comes to your wedding after you get engaged and save the dates are definitely on the top of your list. Here are some tips and tricks about saving the date for your wedding!

To Send or Not to Send

When brides ask me if they should be sending Save the Dates, I always answer the same way, it depends on your wedding. While I think, it is always a good idea to send a Save the Date for your wedding, it is not mandatory by any means. Here are some cases I believe Save the Dates are beneficial:

  • If you are having a destination wedding. People need time to set their plans and save money.

  • If you hare having a wedding during peak time AKA Summer.

  • If your wedding is around a holiday.

In these cases, consider sending Save the Dates. There are ways to save money and send these. Consider only sending them to following people and note your whole wedding invitation list:

  • Family

  • Wedding Party

  • People that are traveling from out of the state or county

When to Send

If you choose to send Save the Dates, I recommend sending them at least 6 months before your wedding. If you are having a destination wedding or holiday weekend wedding I recommend sending them at least 8 months before your wedding. Most couples these days are engaged for at least 12 months so, you have plenty of time to send them out.

Keep it Clear!

With Save the Dates, you should be very clear on who is invited. If you buddy Dave has a girlfriend right now, will they still be together in 6 to 8 months? Make sure to avoid words like plus one or guest on the addressing of the Save the Date envelopes.

If you are thinking about or have decided to make this an adult-only affair, I highly recommend putting that information on your Save the Dates somewhere. This gives the adults time to get a babysitter or even figure out travel plans without the kids. Also, make sure to address the envelopes as well with just, Mr. & Mrs. Smith instead of The Smith Family.

Skip the Information Overload

Instead of putting a ton of information on your Save the Dates, like your registry, hotel information, and such, send them to your wedding website. Make sure your wedding website is completely up-to-date before your Save the Dates go out in the mail.

Do not ditch the envelope!

This is such an important piece of advice that I, as a bride, learned the hard way! Do not send your Save the Dates, or any part of your wedding invitations for that matter, as a postcard. When you do this, yes, you will save a little money on postage but, your Save the Date will be considered third-class mail. This means they are ranked with all the bulk junk mail you receive. They will take longer and they tend to get lost quite a bit. Pay a bit more and use an envelope!

Sneak Peek Look!

Remember, your Save the Dates do not have to be matchy-matchy to your wedding invitations or your wedding. These are just a sneak peek or first look to let people know what is in store at your wedding! So, if you fell in love with a magnet, do it! Or if the colors are not exactly people, that is ok! Do not be afraid to have some fun!

What if the Date Changes?!?!

With everything going on in the world right now with Covid-19 and other circumstances, things and dates might have to change, and that is ok! First, take a deep breath, this can be a hard and overwhelming thing but, you will get through it! If this does happen, enlist help from family and your wedding party to get the word out. You can also send another Save the Date if you wish. Since Covid-19 started we have sent more Re-Save the Dates then ever before! And do not forget to update your website!!!!!

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